2010-04-07T14:32:06-05:00 GCI info@gospel.com /feeds/topics/supporting/ http://hutchcraft.com/a-word-with-you/your-relationships/how-to-carry-the-people-you-need-to-carry-6063 2010-04-07T14:32:06-05:00 Long-haul carriers learn the strange secret of what I call compassionate distance; offering yourself lovingly and wholeheartedly to a hurting person when you're with them, but leaving them completely in God's hands then, and especially when you're not with them. You're not supposed to carry them all the time. And they'll never learn to walk on their own if you get a "messiah complex" and act as if you're their Savior. That's co-dependency, not burden-bearing.