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Joined together - a Christian perspective
Marriage and divorce are not to be taken lightly. This passage cautions us not to separate what God has brought together for His purposes.
http://biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Mark%2010:9&version=NIV
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If somebody gets married and the are sinners does this mean they are not in gods will and if they divorce does that mean they were never in gods will or were never joined together by god are they free to re marry if they are the adultor is it not better to stay single
@kpotter577 I think you’ll get different answers depending on whom you ask, but I think when people marry they join themselves regardless of whether or not they’re trying to follow God’s will.
As to your other questions, anyone else care to take a shot?
@kpotter577 said it unknowingly “they join themselves” not “joined by God”. How can you measure yourself by God’s Will if the choice you made was not done by His Will. Don’t get me wrong God hates divorce, even more so God hates us playing at a Love he created to be perfect. When you are born again into His Kingdom yes God expects you to abide by His Will in all matters, including matters of the heart. How can any man believe that his choice governed by his own evilness comes anywhere close to a joining Blessed by God?
@kpotter577; Chris is correct in saying, “you’ll get different answers depending on whom you ask,” because today society will take the Word of GOD and fashion it to suit them–is it correct, not at all, GOD’s word is everlasting & true. It may not be want we want to adhere to. @Eauria was definitely correct when she enlightened you and said: “how can you measure yourself by GOD’s Will, if the choice you made was not done by HIS Will”….
GOD not only expects, but HE commands, that the people of GOD abide by HIS Will in ALL matters, including matters of the Heart.’ GOD knows, as humans, we all have weaknessess. Does GOD restore? Absolutely, just as King David sinned with Bathsheba in an adulteress affair, he did restore them..but that didn’t come without a price & both being held responsible for their actions. We first must be honest with GOD about the sin; GOD will never bring us condemnation without offering us Grace & Healing, to restore & rebuild.
GOD does not take marriage nor divorce lightly. GOD’s word clearly states, he “I HATE DIVORCE”–book of Malachi…others will justify divorce by pointing out that Moses permitted a divorce, ie: The Pharisees say to Jesus that Moses’ law taught divorce is lawful in nearly every situation…a gross misunderstanding: Mark 10:4–Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.
Deuteronomy 24, states that divorce for any reason, other than sexual immorality is committing adultery.
The word permit & command means two different things: but GOD’s Word is clear…GOD would never tell us to go against HIS Word.
God is the author of marriage between man and woman no matter what religion or culture one has married in.
God puts up with his bride, we will go through trials in are life and none the same thus this is the reason why there is so many opinions. God’s word is the final and only answer.
Divorce is only permitted because of Adultery, not a one night fling or passing foolish season. But a complete disregard for the marriage that he or she has committed to. Divorce is not because you want to but because the other party has forsaken the marriage.
Interesting…There are various ways to look at our individual situations, however, God’s word is God’s word. I believe that God word is a guide for us to live by, but we must realize that god deals with us all on a personal level…intimate level meaning He knows what the motive of our hearts are.
God is lord even over His own word. Because He can not lie, whatever he speaks or commands us to do is truth. We must have a personal relationship with Him in order for us to have clarity in our daily lives. If we have questions ask God if you need more guidance or understanding when faced with a situation that you are going through. God is a god of clarity.
Does God want us to suffer in horrible, divided marriages? Many Christians remain in divided marriages suffering pain, anxieties, and mental or physical abuse for years in obedience to God’s word.
Although these does not fall under sexual sins, should one remain in these types of situations for years? What about the kids who witness these horrible unions and what they are depositing into the children? Lets assume this person has been praying for 10 years for their spouse and wants to end the marriage but is afraid of disobeying God’s word so they stay in bondage.
God does not want us to suffer in horrible marriages. However He wants us to be the spouse He has called us to be regardless of how the other spouse is. For almost all of us in North America we have all chosen our spouses on our own free will and made a covenant between God and them. To blame our spouse or to ask “Does God want me to stay in this” is not right. We need to realize that we have made these choice’s and promises so how do we make it work. I am not suggesting that you stay in a physically abusive home. The Lord permits you to leave that person, but divorce should not follow. You can move out without divorcing and remarrying.
I agree with the comment above about how God puts up with His bride (us..the church) we have so many flaws and how many times have we betrayed Him and let Him down but he promises to NEVER leave of FORSAKE us. This is the picture of marriage!!!
One last note… why are our marriage’s horrible???. it is usually both husband and wife that are allowing it to be horrible. I would bet if you don’t enjoy your marriage neither does your spouse. You are both not making each other happy. Now how do you change that! Work on you and what God expects out of you as a husband or wife and let God work on your spouse! Do all you can to make them happy and make it work. It is possible with the Lord. We can be sure it is His will!
I agree with amyj concerning the enjoyment of marriage, ie: if you are not ‘enjoying’ your marriage chances are, neither is your spouse. AND both spouses should be concerned with the work needed on their own selves and relationships with the Lord including what God expects of them as a spouse and let God handle the other person.
However, happiness is not something you can ‘make’ someone BE… Are we talking happiness or JOY? Happiness is a choice! We make happiness dependent upon situations, circumstances, people, our own spiritual state, etc… but really if we have JOY (in knowing who we are in Christ and following Him) then ‘happiness’ is a road we should be choosing regardless of our circumstances. Joy is a gift from God, one that is irrelevant to our circumstances or situations or actions of either ourselves or others.
Concerning the original question.. May I humbly say that we are ALL sinners, and all of us have acted outside of God’s will at some point. That said, if two non-believers marry, their choices to divorce or remain married are immaterial. If they continue to reject Jesus Christ (the ONLY avenue to the Father) they are of course outside of God’s will. They are outside of His will in EVERYTHING they do. God does not hear the prayers of those who are not His children. The only prayer He will hear is the sinner’s prayer. If He cannot hear them how then can they please Him? It really doesn’t matter what they do, (speaking eternally here) as the end result will be the same… dammnation.
If two people marry who are not Believers, and one or the other become Believers, the original choice (to marry) was made outside of God’s will, the choice to stay…. hmmmm now here is where you should be looking to the Word, listening to the counsel of elder and wiser believers (not “family & friends” who will tell you only what you want to hear), spending tons of time in prayer & fasting asking God to reveal to you what HE desires for your life. In my personal opinion, based on Scripture, I agree again with amyj in her “11:30 post”. Your word is your word, your honor, you made a solemn vow when you married… in sickness and in health, in good times and BAD… Is your word worth anything? Do ‘rough times’ negate you honor, your vow?
I am of the firm belief, based on the lives of the Saints I have personally known, that suffering and troubles are also a gift from God and are ALWAYS prevalent in the lives of those who are closest to Him. From those times, as any teacher will tell you – we learn from the difficult things not the easy ones, can come great growth personally and spiritually. Another wonderful benefit is the possibility of winning a few souls to Christ by your humility and your example for you never know who is watching your life.
Now condemnation should never be brought to one who has failed in this higher calling, for God is the author of Forgiveness & Charity & Hope & Love & All that is Good in this World and by the example of His Son he calls us to live out these things in our own lives.
Please forgive the verbose response…
is common-law marriage acceptable to God?
Thank You Amy For your Help I now Believe My marriage is worth saving,I Just have to be patient,Pray and Wait on GOD.