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Unfaithful in the Bible - a Christian perspective
Jesus says that anyone who divorces his wife for anything except being unfaithful commits adultery. This contrasted the typical custom of divorcing a woman over pettier circumstances.
http://biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%2019:8-9&version=NIV
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Marriage, Divorce, Adultery, Unfaithful, Unfaithfulness
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How did it came to be that divorce becomes an excuse to re-marry?
In Malachi 2:16 “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.
In Mathew 19:7-8 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
And so divorce is allowed.
Mathew 5:32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
so what of the man or woman who did not commit adultery, can they re-marry?
Mathew 19:9
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -NIV
And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.†NKJ
And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. KJ
Based on the scripture above, if one is already divorced (be it he/she is the one who committed the sexual immorality or not), one cannot marry anymore. If one “re-marry” one is committing adultery in the eyes of God.
The point is that marriage and divorce are never to be pursued carelessly or taken for granted! Jesus, also by this decree, liberates women, giving, and protecting their rights.
Jesus warns us that our customs and practices may be popular and allowed, but they are not necessarily good. We must always look to the precepts of Scripture and not to what we think we want. Divorce is almost always the wrong solution to the problems we face. It indicates walking away from responsibility and God’s call. It will only result in our becoming further lost from others and from God. God wants our hearts and minds centered on Him; then our determination will change, as will our behaviors and how we treat one another. Do not be the one who runs away; rather, run to Christ as Lord!
The world considers marriage to be an avenue of satisfaction for the self. This view seems to come from the standpoints of seeking fulfillment in pleasure, companionship, what “I†can get out of it, and how “I†can benefit from it. These are, of course, parts of a relationship, but not the main parts. People get confused, disillusioned, and eventually give up on marriage because they do not feel fulfilled to their satisfaction and expectations. Thus, they are negating what is really important and meaningful in building a marriage! If you want to be successful in life and marriage, you need to get this point: The primary purpose of marriage is not to please ourselves, but to glorify and serve God. The most important guarantee for it to work is to follow His principles from His Word, not what you think, want, or have experienced. Remember, God designed marriage, and us. So, He knows best (Proverbs 5:15-21; 1 Corinthians 7:1-9; Ephesians 5:22-32; Colossians 3:18-21; 1 Peter 3:1-7)!
God’s Word must always be our final court of arbitration for settling any and all arguments; if it is not, we build a house of straw on a foundation of sand!
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If the wife is no longer in love with her husband and is unhappy but yet is a believer but now wants to think only of herself and kids. What is the husbands option when he still love her and wants it to work? does God want a couple to live unhappy lives
If the couple were truly Christians and both decided to seek spiritual counsel and put God in the center of their marriage, He will heal it better than it ever was and more than the couple could imagine.
Love comes in stages during a marriage. Read “The Five Love Languagaes” by Gary Chapman.
God can restore love in you, in your spouse and each partner can restore love in your marriage. Love is free, but it requires work. Hate and bitterness is also free, but it requires no work.
what if the two married people no longer loves each other but they were spiritualy married?
If the second greatest commandment is to love our neighbor as ourselves how then can we say that we do not love our spouse. Is not our spouse greater than our neighbor? The bible says if you must leave your spouse, then you should never re-marry. 1 Corinthians 6:10-11 “To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.” In 1 Corinthians, chapter 13, love is described as being the most important and is central to the Christian Faith. In fact without love there is or we are nothing. Many times unhappy couples will lose that feeling of being “in love” or may be displeased with each other due to actions or a failure to act. Search yourself, pray continuously, and talk extensively with you spouse about the difficulties your relationship faces.
If your husband leaves his family for another woman, what are you to do? I dont want to give up on my marriage. I want it to work and last.
Mathew 5:32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.
You need to take a closer look at Jeremiah 3:8
I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Yet I saw that her unfaithful sister Judah had no fear; she also went out and committed adultery.
God himself divorced his unfaithful wife! So we can conclude that a righteous Man or Woman should forgive a single act of adultery but on discovery of wicked spouse that is stubborly breaking the marriage vows and will not confess or repent or even acknowledge their sin then the lord him self gave a escape for the innocent spouse, and why would God not allow the innocent spouse to re-marry. Remember except for. If He did not than the innocent spouse would be punished for the wicked spouses sin. I think not and the reason the exception clause dose not get listed in Mark or Luke is because the Lord already stated it in Mathew twice that would have been redundent. Reconciliation is allways Gods plan but when faced with a hard hearted adulter that will not stop or tell the truth they leave the innocent spouse no choice. And the rightous should never be joined to the wicked. So please lets not use scripture to confuse or push a agenda. There are conciquences for or sin and if a hard hearted spouse has broken the covenent of the marriage many times, the innocent is free. The sentence for adultery was death in the old testament, Jesus has mercey on the sinner and dose not kill them but they have killed the marriage and also died a sort of spiritual death, “But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool,for he destroys himself”. Prov. 6:32
Is it ok for the the husband who committed adultery to be re-marry? Or will he still committing adultery and where does that place the woman who he wants to marry? Is she too committing a sin for marrying him and is he ever forgiven through the eyes of God?
Malachi 2 11-17 the Message
11-12Judah has cheated on God—a sickening violation of trust in Israel and Jerusalem: Judah has desecrated the holiness of God by falling in love and running off with foreign women, women who worship alien gods. God’s curse on those who do this! Drive them out of house and home! They’re no longer fit to be part of the community no matter how many offerings they bring to God-of-the-Angel-Armies.
13-15And here’s a second offense: You fill the place of worship with your whining and sniveling because you don’t get what you want from God. Do you know why? Simple. Because God was there as a witness when you spoke your marriage vows to your young bride, and now you’ve broken those vows, broken the faith-bond with your vowed companion, your covenant wife. God, not you, made marriage. His Spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he want from marriage? Children of God, that’s what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Don’t cheat on your spouse.
16″I hate divorce,” says the God of Israel. God-of-the-Angel-Armies says, “I hate the violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’ of marriage.” So watch yourselves. Don’t let your guard down. Don’t cheat.
17You make God tired with all your talk.
“How do we tire him out?” you ask.
By saying, “God loves sinners and sin alike. God loves all.” And also by saying, “Judgment? God’s too nice to judge.”
Matthew 5:30-32 (The Message)
29-30″Let’s not pretend this is easier than it really is. If you want to live a morally pure life, here’s what you have to do: You have to blind your right eye the moment you catch it in a lustful leer. You have to choose to live one-eyed or else be dumped on a moral trash pile. And you have to chop off your right hand the moment you notice it raised threateningly. Better a bloody stump than your entire being discarded for good in the dump.
31-32″Remember the Scripture that says, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him do it legally, giving her divorce papers and her legal rights’? Too many of you are using that as a cover for selfishness and whim, pretending to be righteous just because you are ‘legal.’ Please, no more pretending. If you divorce your wife, you’re responsible for making her an adulteress (unless she has already made herself that by sexual promiscuity). And if you marry such a divorced adulteress, you’re automatically an adulterer yourself. You can’t use legal cover to mask a moral failure.
It dose not matter who the offending spouse is H/W the guilty party is not free to remarry the guilty party has broken the marriage covenant and their judgment is life long singleness in steed of death as stated in the old testament.
Malachi 2 11-17 the message
11-12Judah has cheated on God—a sickening violation of trust in Israel and Jerusalem: Judah has desecrated the holiness of God by falling in love and running off with foreign women, women who worship alien gods. God’s curse on those who do this! Drive them out of house and home! They’re no longer fit to be part of the community no matter how many offerings they bring to God-of-the-Angel-Armies.
13-15And here’s a second offense: You fill the place of worship with your whining and sniveling because you don’t get what you want from God. Do you know why? Simple. Because God was there as a witness when you spoke your marriage vows to your young bride, and now you’ve broken those vows, broken the faith-bond with your vowed companion, your covenant wife. God, not you, made marriage. His Spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he want from marriage? Children of God, that’s what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Don’t cheat on your spouse.
16″I hate divorce,” says the God of Israel. God-of-the-Angel-Armies says, “I hate the violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’ of marriage.” So watch yourselves. Don’t let your guard down. Don’t cheat.
17You make God tired with all your talk.
“How do we tire him out?” you ask.
By saying, “God loves sinners and sin alike. God loves all.” And also by saying, “Judgment? God’s too nice to judge.”
GOD will judge all covenant breakers God is not to nice to judge!
Matthew 5 31-32 the message
31-32″Remember the Scripture that says, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him do it legally, giving her divorce papers and her legal rights’? Too many of you are using that as a cover for selfishness and whim, pretending to be righteous just because you are ‘legal.’ Please, no more pretending. If you divorce your wife, you’re responsible for making her an adulteress (unless she has already made herself that by sexual promiscuity). And if you marry such a divorced adulteress, you’re automatically an adulterer yourself. You can’t use legal cover to mask a moral failure.
Our Lord Jesus says that if you divorce on um-biblical grounds and remarry it is a continued state of adultery just like sex out side of marriage the only hope for a guilty spouse is restoration of their covenant marriage. NO EXCEPTIONS!!!!! Because God still holds you accountable to your covenant Marriage no matter what you are bound for life to your Covenant Marriage unless you are the victim of a unrepentant adulterous spouse. And Paul teaches on abandonment by a unbeliever say the believing spouse is no longer bound.
My exhusband wanted a divorce. He told me he didn’t love me anymore. He was abusive. Me and my son were attending church regularly and when I would say something to him about the Lord he would say I needed to quit being holier then thou. I went on a downward spiral. Drugs, alcohol, sex and anything else you could imagine. Then I straightened up. I did remarry a wonderful man. I have came back to my Lord Jesus. I love the Lord with all my heart and will spend the rest of my life growing and working for him, but because I remarried is my life one big sin?
my husband commented adultery in my eye-sight in my home. So I is divorcing him. Now you are saying I can not marry again?
My husband and I have had a ruff last year. We got into an argument and he decided while angry that he was leaving. Then next day he got a moving truck and packed up all of our stuff ( I was at work) and put in storage. Then went back to his home town and stayed. He has been gone for over month and is unwilling to seek counseling to save our marriage instead he wants a divorce. We have children. Will I be a adulterer if I ever decided to get married again?? And will the man who wants to marry me a adulterer as well?? Am I to be alone for the rest of my life because my husband’s leaving??