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Prayer Wall - XXXchurch
A forum to discuss porn, post prayer requests, and ask tough questions.
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Pastors, Prayer, Accountability, Lust, Pornography, Adultery, Addiction, Recovery, Masturbation, Confession Of Sin
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I want to know this: If Jesus said even by looking at a woman lustfully you have already committed adultery with her in your heart….then that would make masterbation wrong……right?
What if….
1) you are married and you are away on a long trip and you “picture” your wife while you are masterbating? Wrong? That doesn’t seem wrong to me. (just not as good as the real thing that’s all)
2) I have yet to meet a christian that has never masterbated. I would like to hear from someone (who is single) who does not masterbate. I have some friends that try to not do it, but everyone fails at some point or another and I would just like to hear from someone that is near thirty or twenties that is single that does not feel the need to masterbate. Is it possible? Whenever I try and not do it for a long amount of time I feel at times like repressing those “urges” sometimes almost turns me into someone I don’t want to be in a negative way. Maybe that is totally not true though. Anyway, if someone could take the time to just quickly write a response to this email I’d appreciate it. I don’t think christians talk about it enough…expecially men, because, like I said all my christian friends still masterbate.
Lastly, I will say this. I have tried to stop for a long time now and have been pretty successful at it for long bouts of time but I have had relapses and I would just like to hear from someone that thinks it worth trying to stop masterbating because again, it seems as though no one tries to stop doing it because they have decided that it is impossible for them to actually stop.
Fair question man. It is a difficult temptation to resist. But I will say this, I am in no way perfect, and cannot say I’ve never done this. I am 31, and in the past year I have been managing very successfuly not to submit to this temptation. I’m not saying I haven’t been tempted or had the desire. But I consider it a challenge God has issued me, among others. And you know what? I feel freed! My sexual pinings and lusts are not my master any longer. They still try, and maybe one day I will fall victim to them again; but as long as I keep God in my focus, I don’t think so. I had no idea how badly my sexual sins were holding me back and oppressing me. The Son has set me free, and buddy, I am free indeed.
I wish I had some scripture to refer you to, but I’m actually in the middle of researching for that. I recommend you do, too. You aren’t alone with your temptations, man.
When you stop.. and doesnt understand why do you need to do it..thats really hard..Unless you realized why you must stop..thats only time that you can manage to get rid of this habit.. I dont think that the thought of your wife makes your masturbation correct. If you have a cup of starbucks with one fly will you still drink it? You dont need a bunch of flies to make your cup of coffee dirty right? So its not about thinking of your wife while your masturbating..its the action!!it self which makes it wrong..if your really desire to stop because it doesnt please the Lord you can do it surely God can help you make it. besides the Bible says that…I am the LORD, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me? thats found in Jermiah 32:27.
I also don’t quite understand why this is wrong, nor have I been able to find scripture that gives a clear answer. I understand that sex is something God gave us to be enjoyed with your spouse, but not having a spouse doesn’t mean that you won’t have those feelings -SOMETIMES-.I don’t think that the desire to masturbate neccessarily means that you are a slave to your sexual pinings and lust. If it consumes you to the point that that’s all you think about, possibly, but, being single is challenging in many ways, and if having to choose between committing sexual sin, (having sex outside of marriage with someone NOT your spouse) and satisfying a desire on your own, why wouldn’t masturbation be the better choice?
If we are being consumed by sexual thoughts to the point of needing a release then we need to be spending more time in the word of God. For us to justify masturbation because we are horny is negating God’s promise “But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:18-20
As I see it the reason masturbation is wrong is simple. It is a SELFISH act. I do not think it matters who you are thinking about. When we masturbate it is our only purpose to satisfy a sexual urge which is SELF motivated. The sex act that was created by God to be between a man and a woman, is to represent the very SPIRITUAL connection that Christ wants with each one of us. It is no wonder that Christ refers to His church as the WOMAN (Bride), “Christ IN YOU the hope of Glory” Col 1:27. Being that the forces of evil have a sole purpose, to impede our ability to have a close union to Christ, he wants to pervert the understanding of the deep spiritual meaning of the sex act. Satan has focused all his greatest efforts in corrupting sex through degrading women, perverting sexual behaviors to their deepest and darkest degeneracy and propagated homosexuality. Then take it all main stream on TV and entertainment so that as a whole we are brought to the point of accepting all these activities as choices and no longer horrified by their corruption. Like a Toad that can be put in water and slowly boiled to death. In the act of sex a man and woman become ONE. In masturbation you are the ONE. there is no room for anyone else. I do not claim to have not ever had a problem with masturbation, on the contrary. Even though there is a place in human development for sexual exploration, without proper parental spiritual and emotional guidance, masturbation can and more than likely will become a problem. I had one for many years as a child which later re manifested itself when I was an adult. But I was not raise a Christian, and now, I am not married to one, and have to deal with the fact that my husband chooses self pleasure over intimacy with me. Through tears, threats, self hatred and much prayer, the Lord has showed me that I must leave that to Him to deal with, and simply maintain myself pure. I only share that so that it be known that I am very privy to the effects and the pitfalls of secret sin. Consequently, since each and every one of us belongs to GOD. In essence if we come to understand this, we are dishonoring Him in masturbation by the simple disrespect of what it is intended to mean. Finally as Christians it should be our desire to be LIKE HIM and honor Him with our lives. We are to be the temple of the Holy Spirit. So I leave you with these two thoughts. Would Jesus do it? And I think I can answer that question with this… While I am masturbating am I a pure and adequate vessel for the abiding presence of the Holy Spirit? Can light and darkness abide simultaneously? I think not. As John said, “My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous:”
1 John 2:1-3 But we also have a promise given us by James…”Submit yourselves therefore to God. RESIST the devil, and he will flee from you.”
James 4:6-8 As always, thanks to the blood of Jesus Our Savior, the choice is still ours.
Let me just say, im a girl and I struggle with the same issues yall do… I want to be a youth pastor and this ugly problem is hindering my relationship with God and im sick of this controlling my life cause ive been trying to stop for like 2 years.
My youth pastor is 26 years old and he has never masturbated in his life never help hands or even kissed with a girl we can victory in this area
Lust starts in the mind it’s not downstairs that controlls it all but upstairs in the mind if you are seeking god daily praying as much as possible and worshiping 3-4 times during the week (not including church or youth or whatever) and reading your bible you mind won’t have room for all lust
Lust is like a weed in the garden you can’t just cut it and think it won’t cone back you have to go to the roots of it and tear it out so start from how it comes about how your feeling and what triggers it lust always desires the undersireable so you can’t just fill it with masturbation cause than it will want a girl and after that it will want a different girl to beat lust you have to starve it if you feed it it will only become stronger so the less u feed it the weaker it will become that’s why people like my youth pastor have never done it because they never fed it so it never grew
So good that your being honest god bless Zane
I wanna know your thoughts about it so drop me an email or something
@zaneychapp Your youth pastor is 26 and has never masturbated? I doubt that. I am 19, born-again beliver in Jesus Christ, and I struggle with doubt, sex addiction, food addiction, lusts of the flesh, control, and depression. Still God uses me to spread His gospel. He is still working on me, for we are all works in progress that God will never abandon. I suggest that everyone who struggles with the urge to self-serve, then they should give it over to the One who has overcome the world.